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Closeness. Touch. Quality time. Eye contact. Emotional vulnerability.
While some people may define intimacy in one specific way, these are just a few examples of other ways to think of intimacy! Intimacy can be a tough (and dare we say, awkward?) topic, even with someone you love and trust.
How you define intimacy can tie back to your love language. For someone whose love language is words of affirmation, intimacy could mean hearing what their partner loves about them. For someone who values quality time, intimacy could mean sitting on the couch together, not necessarily talking or doing anything, but just being.
With that in mind, we invite you to think about thefollowing:
· What is your love language? (Reminder: you can take the Love Language quiz here!)
· What does intimacy look like to you? How are you going to ask for more of it in 2026?
· How do you create safety in intimacy? Do you feel able to express what you need to your partner? (Check out our blog on defining safety here)
In Circle 4, we invite you to explore intimacy through a fun game! If you need a refresh or haven’t reached Circle 4 yet – here's your nudge. No matter how you define intimacy, what’s important is that it feels safe and good. Intimacy is what brings you closer to your partner, and can strengthen your relationship however you define it. Take some time to reflect for yourself, share with your partner, and maybe get cozy on the couch andstare into each other’s eyes 😊
Author: Maris Rosenfeld, Community Outreach and EducationCoordinator at SHALVA. Her definition of intimacy is rooted in quality time.
